We commonly generalize a phrase that ‘men will remain men‘, ‘all men are same‘ irrespective of their situation, but it is not true. The mistake of one man cannot be generalised that all men are the same, they are not. The society in which we live in is patriarchal. Because of this society, the voices of the women become voiceless and suppressed. The society in which we live in is dominative even though we may have enough freedom and rights. We, as a woman, have known no right in this society to raise up our voice.
Every boy in this world is born genderless. It is this patriarchal society that imbibes the gender equality with him. The society plays a major role in the life of every man. At this level, law, policies and practices of the state, as well as traditional and customary practices of the society contribute a major role in violence against women. This makes him raise his voices against the woman, in case, if she refuses he becomes aggressive.
The overdose of these patriarchal norms of the society is the result of domestic abuse, street harassment, sexual harassment at work, stalking, etc.. These are the men who make women think negatively that all men are trash, try to play women. Men are locked onto these thoughts, forms a tunnel vision within him. The society makes them take things for granted. Being the victim of the society in these cases, the hidden demon inside every man comes out. But actually, they are also normal humans like others.
At this state, remember that not all men are same. Based on our experiences we stereotype, ‘all men are bad’. our firsthand experience makes us stick on to this fact. There are few bad apples in every bunch that doesn’t mean that all the apples are same. Likewise, if some men are bad in this society, it doesn’t mean all are the same. Many of the boring, unsuccessful men turned out to be the best husbands and partners to their wife. Not all men in this society are violent.
Actually, there are some guys who really care about their women who want a relationship and will go out their way for them. There are still men who are ready to honor us in this world. there are still men to respect us. There are men in this society who value our love and loyalty. There are still men out patiently waiting to prioritize us in this society. If we take Nirbhaya case, the reason behind the rape was men but there was also a man who fought for the injustice to his friend.
All men are not same. There may be vast majorities of men like this but this doesn’t mean that all men are not good. Even though there are men like this in the society, there is an exception like our father, brother, friends etc. who really do stand by our side in our difficult times and understand our feelings and give voice against our inequality in the society. Many of the boring, unsuccessful men turned out to the best husbands and partners to their wife. Not all men in this society are violent. Actually, there are some guys who really care about their women who want a relationship and will go out their way for them.
A word of caution, we are not supporting any rapist or any brutal activity of men but at the same time, generalisation is not correct
on the basis of few.